*sigh* Ladies, ladies, ladies we have all heard about or dealt with this topic so many times that whether or not we’ve been through it we’d probably still be able to hold seminars about it. I’m talking about the infamous ride or die chicks. This term goes waaaay back and has been popularized by the hip hop community as well as the black community. For instance Tiny and T.I.!
Now I hope that I don’t offend anyone with the things that I say in this post. That is not my intention. However if you could be a lady about it and post respectable comments,then I’d love to hear what you have to say! Now back to the concept at hand. I’m all for women sticking by their men, to me personally that’s a part of what love is. But when it comes to something that can tarnish your reputation, or leave you in an unbearable amount of pain and stress, then I think its time to question the love you have for yourself. I believe that ones self love should never be compromised by the love that they have for another. You and God are literally all you’ve got at the end of the day so falling out of love with either one can be extremely dangerous. Staying involved with someone who is incarcerated or involved in “illegal business” does just that. I t compromises the things that are good and healthy for you and your children. For example, lets just say your involved with a someone and its serious. You’ve been through hell fire for this man and all you’ve got to show for it is your loyalty. Have you ever paused to think for one minute that maybe, the same way I’m out here trying to make things work for him as well as for us, maybe he should keep himself from situations that could cause him to lose everything that we’ve worked for. I refuse to believe any man that says hustling is all he can do to feed his wife (or babymama) and kids. Really now? don’t you think they deserve more. You knew what you were getting yourself into when you started hustling, don’t believe anyone that says otherwise. The risk that you could be murdered or imprisoned and your child would have to grow up being privately and sometimes publically called a bastard or having to hear agonizing, straining and sometimes truthful tales of their fathers is beyond being unfair. Dont tell me that the one’s you love don’t deserve better. The same goes for the women who like to boast that they’ve been with their men through such occurences. What do you have to show for it? Most times, not even a ring! What does that situation do for you? You have given your life, energy, body and unconditional love to a man who can’t or wont reciprocate that love right back. I know love is selfless, but not in the aspect of giving the love back. The person that would give they’re life for you deserves the same in return. So men, please do us good women a favor and keep your butts outta trouble so we women don’t have to make excuses for why we love you, why we love at all, or why we even bother. Make us proud of you, make us deserving of YOU! We deserve to tell you that we love you face to face and not through a bulletproof glass, we deserve to have intimate moments with you in the privacy of our homes and not via conjugal visits, our children deserve to know they’re fathers and have positive images of men through them, and we deserve you….the BEST of you! I am in no way trying to bash the women that decide that this is right for them. By all means, you know what you can take emotionally handle mama so do you. But for all the women that know who they are and what they deserve and open their hearts to the many blessings awaiting them through their heavenly father…be blessed my sister! You are beautiful, you are powerful, and you are strong and don’t allow anyone tell you that you are less than who you KNOW you are! God bless dolls!