There is an evil which I have seen under the sun, and it is common among…women. Yes, I did just quote a scripture from the Bible (ya’ll should read it when you get the chance ) but instead of stating that this evil is common among men, I’ve actually seen such an evil more common amongst us women. How many times have we said, he will change? How many times have we said He does love me you just dont understand us? How many countless nights have we shed tears while holding our belly’s trying to catch our breath because the emotional pain was so intense, just to go back to that same man the next morning? Well I say enough is enough! If he cant make you his first priority then DO NOT settle for being his option. If God can has billions of children and yet still make you feel like your the only one then what in the world is his excuse? At the end of the day ladies, a man or any other human being can only treat you the way you let them treat you. You’re always in control of how you’re treated so dont ever settle for less. I dont even know you ladies and I respect you, I honor you, I admire you…why should the person you’re with be any different? You know what, dont even ask yourself questions like that anymore. Stop putting question marks where God has placed a period. If a man tells you who he is… believe him! Dont wait for any man to change! If God did not send him to you “suited and booted” and ready to go, then honey he is not for you. God would never send you a half done job. The only changes that should be made if any are the ones made to improve and better the relationship not him. You see all that time, work, effort and love it took you to get to the beautiful, confident, and fearless goddess you are today? Well, the only man who deserves that is a good man. The right man. The man who asks you how your day was because he actually cares. The man who treats you to simple luxuries just because he wants to make you smile. The man who would rather lose his job and sell his Xbox before he’s ever responsible for a single tear that falls down your cheek. One who can offer something back to you for a change. You see how much you love yourself? If he cant max that love out like a black card in Neiman Marcus, then you need fi tell him fi gwan ( thats patois for tell him to go somewhere)lol! Better will come doll. It may not feel like that all the time because at the end of the day we’re goddesses, but we’re still human first. But always try to remember , the best love after God’s love, is self love. Oh yeah…and this too shall pass.