This topic has come up a numerous amount of times in the Black and natural haired community. Before you start to read, if you are extremely sensitive to topics that touch on race, then you might wanna continue on to the next post, cuz we keeps it 100 round here (country accent) lol :-). The obvious question is, are black men intimidated by black women with natural hair?I’ve asked around myself and have gotten many mixed responses. So far I’ve only dated black men and all of them wanted me to perm or straighten my hair, all but one! After bickering and constant debates on ” whats wrong with the way my hair is now” and “why can’t you just appreciate the REAL me?.” I finally just lost patience and eventually broke up with all of them (I hate to be surrounded by negativity). On top of that, their reasonings behind it were so WHACK! “I just wanna see what your hair looks like straight…all the time” or, this is a good one “I just wanna run my fingers through your hair….successfully”. Yes he did ya’ll, yes he did lol. But I’m not done! What I don’t get is that they rather you perm your hair than put in weave. Almost all the guys I’ve spoken to about this hated the un-naturalness of weaves, but they don’t mind the unnatural state of your overall texture! HUH?!!! That makes no sense! For whatever reason, call in confidence or pride in oneself, but why can’t he just love you for the NATURAL you? Why do you have to be something you’re not to be appealing or sexy to him? We don’t pressure them to rock a S-Curl. We take them with fades, blow outs, braids and dreads (mmmm dreads lol). What I have also noticed though, and this is another good one, is that White men are more attracted to natural sistas than Black men are! Now tell me if that just doesn’t bring up more problems than a Chinese math test lol? Most White men (and I do say most), are actually intrigued by natural hair. The ways it moves, the way it feels, the work that we put into it, the way the carry our natural hair, is all very new and exciting for them. I was in the library at my school one day, and this blonde-haired, blue-eyed hottie approached me and started straight up mackin lol. He approached me with his swag ” all the way turnt up” lol. The first thing that came out of his mouth was ” I don’t normally do this but, you are absolutely stunning. Your hair, your skin tone…will you be my friend lol?” C’mon son lol! I HAD to give him the time of day…minutes included lol. A Black man has yet to approach me by first complementing on my natural beauty. I mean, granted sometimes I do have my days where I look like Sanka from Cool Runnings, but I normally have my fearless natural diva (N.D) going on lol. I just haven’t seen many Black men who are very excepting of natural curls, and not just with me but in general. I love my Black men, but sometimes I swear they’re from another planet. I just dont get them at times! Especiallywhen it comes to this! Please share your experiences and views on this topic. It would be greatly appreciated, and I’d love to hear what you have to say about it!